Stepping our of your comfort zone – a positive use of fear

We’ve all been there; butterflies in our stomach, sweaty palms, excitement or is it fear at the prospect of something new.

Stepping out of your comfort zone can be both scary and liberating. It’s using the emotion and reaction of fear into a positive, fuel charged action.

It would be oh so easy to keep our life as it is today; feeling the ‘same old’ every day. Day in day out. Waking up to that familiar flat line yet safe energy.

We are often told “not to go into fear” but occasionally fear can serve us in a positive, inspirational and motivational way – stepping out of our comfort zone is a strategy for change and transformation so why do so many of us resists it?

Fear can keep you stuck or drive you forward – it’s your choice.

Look at fear in a different way and it will alter your  mindset, catapulting you out of your comfort zone, into the unknown.  We often resist the unknown simply because we don’t know what it’s like to live there. We don’t know how we will feel, we don’t know if our primary human need of being safe will be met.

We can settle for safe and our lives will be ‘quite nice’ or even ‘fine’ or we can push through the fear and launch ourselves into something new.

Fear fuels ego whilst love liberates us…. more about that later.

New-ness keeps you young

The new-ness of taking the leap will bring in lots of new experiences, new energy that might even excite you, keeping you younger than your years. Your eyes sparkle and the same old-ness’ lifts being replaced by a newly discovered motivation and yes even passion.

There have been many times in my life when I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone –   from somewhat minor acts such as going topless for the first girls holiday when I was eighteen to standing up in crown court facing the man who tried to end my life.

Each time I felt nervous, tense, scared shitless but I knew I ‘had’ to do ‘it’. The ‘it’ word came from the depths of my soul. It was and still is my soul pushing me, nudging me, daring me to go that bit further to experience its liberation.

We are here to be free in whatever way we chose to co-create our lives. Your soul is caged like a bird until you discover the limit-less capabilities of being human with a mindset that you can change when you choose.

Fear fuels ego whilst love liberates us

I have been observing the ego and how it plays out in myself and others for the last nineteen years. In my role as The Life Guidance Mentor, I’ve worked with  people who are facing a crossroads and life challenges.

The ego is fuelled by fear often catapulting our memories to pluck out times when we were fear-full. The memory ignites that intense feeling of fear and separateness. At that time you couldn’t be further away from love.

Old patterns of behaviour and thinking return if you are not on alert, pulling you back to the yukky-ness of old yet familiar territory.

The ego keeps us separate

It’s part of the ego’s job to keep us separate from feeling whole and complete. When we feel complete we are love- filled, safe and free, yet as soon as fear surfaces, it risks cracking open the doors for fear to come in and expand the crack filling it with fear -filled memories, feelings then actions.

Our feelings often dictate our subsequent actions and behaviour. It’s that fickle!

When we choose to step out of the comfort zone, we choose to challenge the fear and use it for the greater good of being whole, complete and even happier yet we need to go through the initial challenge.

Push through the resistance

Think back to when you pushed through the resistance of doing something new, challenging. How did you feel at it’s conclusion?

Would you choose to do it again if you had your life over? or would you stay in the safety net of normality every day-ness?

Whatever you choose, I urge you to step out of your comfort zone just once and observe the teachings.

Let’s not  create regrets imagine being on your deathbed,  will you be grateful for living the same old same old life or grateful for the challenges you set yourself?

Life is for living, experiencing new things and challenging our fears. it opens us up to greater love and even joy.

I know what I choose.

Happy journey!

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor @ 2017 All Rights Reserved.

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How to achieve the life you truly dream of – No b*******!

Now for all of you who know me, will vouch for me when I say I am direct, straight talking and no bullshit!

I haven’t got time for that, give me he direct truth any day.

One of the things I am passionate about helping my clients with is to create the sort of life they truly desire.

Here’s my recent fb post:

“My friends will know that Wayne and I mainly live in Solihull for half the week then we stay at our lil place in Malvern the second half of the week.

We’ve created a perfect work/life balance which I’m extremely grateful for.

Some people say we are lucky, yet I contest that. We are not lucky, we consciously make choices and decisions to give us the best life. We work hard and love making a difference to the world in our own ways.

This aspect is one I love to share with my clients. It makes my heart smile to see them grow and create the life they have always dreamed of. It’s not just about money, far from it but about how worries lessen, fears are faced and shrunk once acknowledged. It’s how we go to sleep at night in peace and fulfillment and how we wake up in the morning with excitement at the day ahead.

I love sharing the skill-set of a conscious co creator. If you want to know more pm me xxx”

Many people think that it is not possible to have their dreams come true. It might be their mindset, how they were brought up: “you’re getting above your station” was one saying while I was growing up, another “we can’t afford it”. Ooh I loathe that one.

We don’t always realise how these imprints affect our lives and our reality. Whatever we think, we feel, we believe it then we actually become the saying we constantly heard “we can’t afford it” then creates your reality that actually no you can’t afford ‘it’ whatever ‘it’ is.


How do we change this ‘reality?’

One of the simplest and effective ways is to change your speak to powerful, positive and in the now language – saying “I am…” is so powerful.

I am happy, wealthy and healthy.

I am so abundant in so many ways; Money constantly flows into my life.

I  am in love with my life, the opportunities it brings and all the wonderful people I am blessed to know.

The more you say these positive, in the now statements or affirmations as they are often called, the more you will create them becoming your reality.

Focus on one area of your life you want to change and create an “I am” in the now positive affirmation.

Say it often throughout the day.

Act upon any ideas or opportunities that present themselves. This is key; if you don’t act on the newly presented ideas and opportunities your reality won’t upgrade to the new desired way of living.

Let me give you an example;

In 2015, my boys were 19 years and 23 years, James was working after been taken off as a Junior Engineer following completing his apprenticeship and Sam was working in London.

It was the first time that Wayne and I had been together where we could think about our needs, dreams and desires and put them into action.

We decided we wanted a change from living in a built up area and craved for our ‘heaven on earth’ with countryside and lovely local pubs.

I asked to be shown our heaven on earth and six weeks later we had bought a large three bed roomed static caravan at a beautiful holiday park in Herefordshire.

Since spending half of our week there, I have realised I am the happiest I have ever been. Why? Because I now recognise I need to be near the greenery and beauty of nature.

I am also delighted that I am becoming a pretty cool conscious co creator not only for myself but for others. A dear friend sent us over £3000, when my hubby was really ill and couldn’t work. It was a gift from her heart to ours. I was using my ‘in the now’  ‘I am’ statements to release the fears threatening to engulf me at  this time when Ellie called me literally seconds after I started and offered us this gift. It was in our bank account the very next day.

We were so grateful for her kindness and the fact that the winking fears were blasted out of our minds, that I kept stating that Ellie would receive gifts back tenfold over. She certainly did.

A week alter she received a cash gift of $5000.

A month later she was gifted a two week holiday in Hawaii’s top hotel staying in the suite.

Eight month’s later some land was sold at a premium rate.

So can you see that this works? Would you like to have a go yourself and see what you co create? Go on I dare you.

I often find that when people wok with me as their mentor, they start to become a really great conscious co creator too.

Look out for the August edition of Fate & Fortune Magazine where they share a co-creation tool I use and share with my clients. You will see the true feedback from Lucy, a lady I’ve been working with for the last two years. It really works!

Out in July 2017.

If you would like to discuss the possibility of us working together, email me at info@alisonwardmentoring.com

Until next time, taraa.

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor

All rights reserved @2017

http://www.alisonwardmentoring.com