#LOVEIsTheWay

#Love Is The Way

Hellooo!

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged. I’ve been busy living life, working on my businesses and making a difference wherever I can.

I simply had to write this blog to share some news with you.

Recently, I was approached by a National Daily Newspaper to give them my intuitive thoughts on Prince Harry and Meghan just after their very royal wedding on Sat 19th May 2018.

I love Prince Harry and have been the proud recipient of two letters from him when I invited him to become Patron of my charitable mental health company The Butterfly Haven Company.

So when I was asked to write some content about him and his beautiful bride, there was no way I would  say anything dishonorable and would only submit what I felt was truth.

Being an Intuitive I often get images, words and thoughts about people, situations, outcomes etc and use this gift in my work as The Life Guidance Mentor, to Bring You Back To YOU during my one to one mentoring sessions, books and blogs.

This request was no different.

The sun showed it’s full glory on Saturday 19th May. I was in sunny Malvern enjoying a ‘street party’ with my hubby and friends, waving my flag and eating jelly when the info started to flow.

I eagerly got out my notepad as the wedding commenced and the words flowed…just like the bubbly!

The following notes are what I wrote about our Duke and Duchess of Sussex;

“Meghan & Harry represent hope and diversity.

They represent the bringing together of nations and unity consciousness.

As she walked up the step by herself, this was a metaphor for Meghan’s sole (soul) journey  entering into a family; The Royal Family.

Meghan is:

  • dedicated to her role.
  • Her love is genuine
  • She epitomises a strong warrior woman, courageous in not knowing what is ahead of her but nonetheless walking into the breach of the unknown ( the steps of St George’s), walking as one soul ready to unite with another – Harry.

The wedding symbolises countries joining together.

Meghan will carry on Diana’s work – landmines and Africa are prominent.

There may be even be an adopted child from Africa.

There will be TWO girls born to the marriage.

As they merge as ONE  union, ONE couple, they inspire the world to merge even with their differences.

“Embrace your differences for that is what makes you unique. Also learn to embrace others’ and learn to live together in acceptance of differences.”

Meghan &Harry are a symbol for the union of two unique warriors who are joining together to make a difference within their own differences.

Signing the register represented the signing of the peace treaty(s) and future collaborations of peace, the power of LOVE & Unity.

Meghan represents finding your own voice, as an individual and as an individual as part of a couple. and of a nation.

Meghan is open to hearing and experiencing different people and situations and tries not to judge.

She is:

Feisty

passionate

focussed

disciplined

Some will say she is selfish but she has a dogged determination when she sets her mind on something. She goes for it full pelter!

Sometimes she can be moody but if left on her own she will come round.  Do not try and coax her unless it’s with humour!

Together they have a wicked sense of humour – wicked as in really naughty and funny.

I then heard LOVE IS THE WAY, then the American Reverand started his (long) presentation lol

I loved how they both looked like they were really going to collapse into giggles.

#loveistheway

 

What are your thoughts on the royal couple and their union?

 

Until next time taraa

 

Alison Ward The Life Guidance Mentor – Bringing you Back To YOU

all rights reserved @2018

www.alisonwardmentoring.com

Humanxiety – the human illness

Humanxiety – the human illness

 

The man infront of me cried unashamedly, yet slightly uncomfortable with this expression. I wonder how many times he had he cried in this way before.

The answer was offered instantly. Had he read my mind?

“I’m not used to this. I can’t remember the last time I cried”

This was a forty five year old man who had been carrying the burden of past hurts and disappointments since childhood.

He was referred to me by a former client who came along as he too was suffering from anxiety and low moods, even depression.

Our first session took his history. It became clear that this was a person who was suffering from HUMANXIETY – The human Illness. He had been pushing down feelings of hurt, rejection, apparent failure since his parents split as a child only for them to fester and manifest in anxiety. I choose to  call it separation.  Separation from our wholeself!

Let me explain:

Can you remember a time when you were really happy and everything flowed in your life? Maybe it was when you fell in love or got your dream job.

You woke up feeling bright and positive at the day ahead and as a result you looked great, your positive shiney energy attracted other great opportunities and life was good.

This was a time in your life when you were aligned to your own personal values and feeling whole and complete. You and your wholself were acting as a team and it showed by your demeanour and the opportunities this created.

Your wholeself is what you are made up of in your human state:

  • Your physical aspect – that’s your body the shell in which you reside.
  • Your mental Aspect – how you think and what you believe in including the beliefs that have been imprinted in you from parents, society etc.
  • Your emotional Aspect – How you feel and respond to people and situations. Happiness, anger, jealousy, love, compassion…
  • Your spiritual Aspect – Your connection to yourself and others. Knowing or feeling that there is ‘more to this life’ consciously or unconsciously.

When you are feeling happy, whole and connected you are in balance and harmony prevails but when you omit to access some aspects of yourself, you may begin to feel restless, uneasy or even anxious. If you ignore this feeling, yes I’ve said it again the ‘f’ word, you may fuel the anxiety so it grows until it renders you hopeless, scared and devoid of all purpose.

It may present itself as a feeling, knowing or smouldering awareness that ‘something is missing from your life’, or maybe you shout, swear and react more than ‘normal’.

You my love are slowly disappearing in to the fog of separation, fear creating humanxiety and even depression!

You love your partner but just can’t quite connect like you used to. Sex is used for a physical release not as an expression of love and connection for you both. You don’t even recognise her when she looks at you pleadingly for ‘the answer’ to this state of sole -ness.

You are physically fit, on the ball mentally but feel numb; “heck what does it matter that I don’t feel? It’s not important!” I hear you say.

Yes it is!

It’s showing you that you are becoming dis jointed, fragmented like a huge mirror been thrown to the ground. Shards of glass mixed with splinters and rays of light. No longer its glorious self.

We are urged in business to network, social media encourages you to add more followers, my you must be popular! Connect, connect, connect means you are more visable, successful, popular and liked.

Nah! This is the current time’s form of bullshit. You are not connected, come on put your phone down as when you eat a meal, turn off the TV, ask your kids how there day has been with interest and focus.

We, as a society have conned ourselves long enough. Technology may connect you to Barbara in Illinois, Sky TV allows you to watch the boxing in another time zone but we are all becoming more and more separate from our selves ( our wholeself) and each other.

What can you do about it?

Be kind to you. Use the end of your day to reflect on you and your day; how you felt, the joys and the lows, what you have learned. Speak with intent to your loved ones and be present whilst you listen.

Use the power of touch to soothe and connect.

Put down the mobile, the remote and the takeaway and look into your eyes in your mirror.

Do you like what you see?

Consider booking in with me as your Life Guidance Mentor. I will be your mirror.

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor @December2017. All rights reserved.

http://www.alisonwardmentoring.com

Stepping out of your comfort zone – a positive use of fear

We’ve all been there; butterflies in our stomach, sweaty palms, excitement or is it fear at the prospect of something new.

Stepping out of your comfort zone can be both scary and liberating. It’s using the emotion and reaction of fear into a positive, fuel charged action.

It would be oh so easy to keep our life as it is today; feeling the ‘same old’ every day. Day in day out. Waking up to that familiar flat line yet safe energy.

We are often told “not to go into fear” but occasionally fear can serve us in a positive, inspirational and motivational way – stepping out of our comfort zone is a strategy for change and transformation so why do so many of us resists it?

 

Fear can keep you stuck or drive you forward – it’s your choice

Look at fear in a different way and it will alter your  mindset, catapulting you out of your comfort zone, into the unknown.  We often resist the unknown simply because we don’t know what it’s like to live there. We don’t know how we will feel, we don’t know if our primary human need of being safe will be met.

We can settle for safe and our lives will be ‘quite nice’ or even ‘fine’ or we can push through the fear and launch ourselves into something new.

Fear fuels ego whilst love liberates us…. more about that later.

 

New-ness keeps you young

The new-ness of taking the leap will bring in lots of new experiences, new energy that might even excite you, keeping you younger than your years. Your eyes sparkle and the same old-ness’ lifts being replaced by a newly discovered motivation and yes even passion.

There have been many times in my life when I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone –   from somewhat minor acts such as going topless for the first girls holiday when I was eighteen to standing up in crown court facing the man who tried to end my life.

Each time I felt nervous, tense, scared shitless but I knew I ‘had’ to do ‘it’. The ‘it’ word came from the depths of my soul. It was and still is my soul pushing me, nudging me, daring me to go that bit further to experience its liberation.

We are here to be free in whatever way we chose to co-create our lives. Your soul is caged like a bird until you discover the limit-less capabilities of being human with a mindset that you can change when you choose.

 

Fear fuels ego whilst love liberates us

I have been observing the ego and how it plays out in myself and others for the last nineteen years. In my role as The Life Guidance Mentor, I’ve worked with  people who are facing a crossroads and life challenges.

The ego is fuelled by fear often catapulting our memories to pluck out times when we were fear-full. The memory ignites that intense feeling of fear and separateness. At that time you couldn’t be further away from love.

Old patterns of behaviour and thinking return if you are not on alert, pulling you back to the yukky-ness of old yet familiar territory.

 

The ego keeps us separate

It’s part of the ego’s job to keep us separate from feeling whole and complete. When we feel complete we are love- filled, safe and free, yet as soon as fear surfaces, it risks cracking open the doors for fear to come in and expand the crack filling it with fear -filled memories, feelings then actions.

 

Our feelings often dictate our subsequent actions and behaviour. It’s that fickle!

When we choose to step out of the comfort zone, we choose to challenge the fear and use it for the greater good of being whole, complete and even happier yet we need to go through the initial challenge.

 

Push through the resistance

Think back to when you pushed through the resistance of doing something new, challenging. How did you feel at it’s conclusion?

Would you choose to do it again if you had your life over? or would you stay in the safety net of normality every day-ness?

Whatever you choose, I urge you to step out of your comfort zone just once and observe the teachings.

Let’s not  create regrets imagine being on your deathbed,  will you be grateful for living the same old same old life or grateful for the challenges you set yourself?

Life is for living, experiencing new things and challenging our fears. it opens us up to greater love and even joy.

 

I know what I choose.

Happy journey!

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor @ 2017 All Rights Reserved.

http://www.facebook.com/thelifeguidancementor/

Stepping our of your comfort zone – a positive use of fear

We’ve all been there; butterflies in our stomach, sweaty palms, excitement or is it fear at the prospect of something new.

Stepping out of your comfort zone can be both scary and liberating. It’s using the emotion and reaction of fear into a positive, fuel charged action.

It would be oh so easy to keep our life as it is today; feeling the ‘same old’ every day. Day in day out. Waking up to that familiar flat line yet safe energy.

We are often told “not to go into fear” but occasionally fear can serve us in a positive, inspirational and motivational way – stepping out of our comfort zone is a strategy for change and transformation so why do so many of us resists it?

Fear can keep you stuck or drive you forward – it’s your choice.

Look at fear in a different way and it will alter your  mindset, catapulting you out of your comfort zone, into the unknown.  We often resist the unknown simply because we don’t know what it’s like to live there. We don’t know how we will feel, we don’t know if our primary human need of being safe will be met.

We can settle for safe and our lives will be ‘quite nice’ or even ‘fine’ or we can push through the fear and launch ourselves into something new.

Fear fuels ego whilst love liberates us…. more about that later.

New-ness keeps you young

The new-ness of taking the leap will bring in lots of new experiences, new energy that might even excite you, keeping you younger than your years. Your eyes sparkle and the same old-ness’ lifts being replaced by a newly discovered motivation and yes even passion.

There have been many times in my life when I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone –   from somewhat minor acts such as going topless for the first girls holiday when I was eighteen to standing up in crown court facing the man who tried to end my life.

Each time I felt nervous, tense, scared shitless but I knew I ‘had’ to do ‘it’. The ‘it’ word came from the depths of my soul. It was and still is my soul pushing me, nudging me, daring me to go that bit further to experience its liberation.

We are here to be free in whatever way we chose to co-create our lives. Your soul is caged like a bird until you discover the limit-less capabilities of being human with a mindset that you can change when you choose.

Fear fuels ego whilst love liberates us

I have been observing the ego and how it plays out in myself and others for the last nineteen years. In my role as The Life Guidance Mentor, I’ve worked with  people who are facing a crossroads and life challenges.

The ego is fuelled by fear often catapulting our memories to pluck out times when we were fear-full. The memory ignites that intense feeling of fear and separateness. At that time you couldn’t be further away from love.

Old patterns of behaviour and thinking return if you are not on alert, pulling you back to the yukky-ness of old yet familiar territory.

The ego keeps us separate

It’s part of the ego’s job to keep us separate from feeling whole and complete. When we feel complete we are love- filled, safe and free, yet as soon as fear surfaces, it risks cracking open the doors for fear to come in and expand the crack filling it with fear -filled memories, feelings then actions.

Our feelings often dictate our subsequent actions and behaviour. It’s that fickle!

When we choose to step out of the comfort zone, we choose to challenge the fear and use it for the greater good of being whole, complete and even happier yet we need to go through the initial challenge.

Push through the resistance

Think back to when you pushed through the resistance of doing something new, challenging. How did you feel at it’s conclusion?

Would you choose to do it again if you had your life over? or would you stay in the safety net of normality every day-ness?

Whatever you choose, I urge you to step out of your comfort zone just once and observe the teachings.

Let’s not  create regrets imagine being on your deathbed,  will you be grateful for living the same old same old life or grateful for the challenges you set yourself?

Life is for living, experiencing new things and challenging our fears. it opens us up to greater love and even joy.

I know what I choose.

Happy journey!

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor @ 2017 All Rights Reserved.

http://www.alisonwardmentoring.com

http://www.facebook.com/thelifeguidancementor/

 

 

 

 

How to achieve the life you truly dream of – No b*******!

Now for all of you who know me, will vouch for me when I say I am direct, straight talking and no bullshit!

I haven’t got time for that, give me he direct truth any day.

One of the things I am passionate about helping my clients with is to create the sort of life they truly desire.

Here’s my recent fb post:

“My friends will know that Wayne and I mainly live in Solihull for half the week then we stay at our lil place in Malvern the second half of the week.

We’ve created a perfect work/life balance which I’m extremely grateful for.

Some people say we are lucky, yet I contest that. We are not lucky, we consciously make choices and decisions to give us the best life. We work hard and love making a difference to the world in our own ways.

This aspect is one I love to share with my clients. It makes my heart smile to see them grow and create the life they have always dreamed of. It’s not just about money, far from it but about how worries lessen, fears are faced and shrunk once acknowledged. It’s how we go to sleep at night in peace and fulfillment and how we wake up in the morning with excitement at the day ahead.

I love sharing the skill-set of a conscious co creator. If you want to know more pm me xxx”

Many people think that it is not possible to have their dreams come true. It might be their mindset, how they were brought up: “you’re getting above your station” was one saying while I was growing up, another “we can’t afford it”. Ooh I loathe that one.

We don’t always realise how these imprints affect our lives and our reality. Whatever we think, we feel, we believe it then we actually become the saying we constantly heard “we can’t afford it” then creates your reality that actually no you can’t afford ‘it’ whatever ‘it’ is.


How do we change this ‘reality?’

One of the simplest and effective ways is to change your speak to powerful, positive and in the now language – saying “I am…” is so powerful.

I am happy, wealthy and healthy.

I am so abundant in so many ways; Money constantly flows into my life.

I  am in love with my life, the opportunities it brings and all the wonderful people I am blessed to know.

The more you say these positive, in the now statements or affirmations as they are often called, the more you will create them becoming your reality.

Focus on one area of your life you want to change and create an “I am” in the now positive affirmation.

Say it often throughout the day.

Act upon any ideas or opportunities that present themselves. This is key; if you don’t act on the newly presented ideas and opportunities your reality won’t upgrade to the new desired way of living.

Let me give you an example;

In 2015, my boys were 19 years and 23 years, James was working after been taken off as a Junior Engineer following completing his apprenticeship and Sam was working in London.

It was the first time that Wayne and I had been together where we could think about our needs, dreams and desires and put them into action.

We decided we wanted a change from living in a built up area and craved for our ‘heaven on earth’ with countryside and lovely local pubs.

I asked to be shown our heaven on earth and six weeks later we had bought a large three bed roomed static caravan at a beautiful holiday park in Herefordshire.

Since spending half of our week there, I have realised I am the happiest I have ever been. Why? Because I now recognise I need to be near the greenery and beauty of nature.

I am also delighted that I am becoming a pretty cool conscious co creator not only for myself but for others. A dear friend sent us over £3000, when my hubby was really ill and couldn’t work. It was a gift from her heart to ours. I was using my ‘in the now’  ‘I am’ statements to release the fears threatening to engulf me at  this time when Ellie called me literally seconds after I started and offered us this gift. It was in our bank account the very next day.

We were so grateful for her kindness and the fact that the winking fears were blasted out of our minds, that I kept stating that Ellie would receive gifts back tenfold over. She certainly did.

A week alter she received a cash gift of $5000.

A month later she was gifted a two week holiday in Hawaii’s top hotel staying in the suite.

Eight month’s later some land was sold at a premium rate.

So can you see that this works? Would you like to have a go yourself and see what you co create? Go on I dare you.

I often find that when people wok with me as their mentor, they start to become a really great conscious co creator too.

Look out for the August edition of Fate & Fortune Magazine where they share a co-creation tool I use and share with my clients. You will see the true feedback from Lucy, a lady I’ve been working with for the last two years. It really works!

Out in July 2017.

If you would like to discuss the possibility of us working together, email me at info@alisonwardmentoring.com

Until next time, taraa.

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor

All rights reserved @2017

http://www.alisonwardmentoring.com

 

Is it a weakness to show vulnerability?

Is it a weakness to show vulnerability?

It was a sunny yet moody day in the beautiful town of Malvern. I was due to meet a mentoring client for her monthly session in the stunning Abbey Hotel.

You are your business

I always use the phrase “You are your business” and encourage my clients to honestly and openly share how their journey has been since our last meet up. I believe that this approach clears any lingering energies, paving the way for progress and yes success whatever success is to the individual.

Looking beyond the mask

I could see she was wearing a ‘mask’ trying to hide her true feelings so she would remain and appear ‘professional’.

An ex corporate lady, she was used to the constant mask- wearing that the corporate world dictated so I decided I would encourage it to slip off in a mask-slipping demonstration.

“My God this last month has been shit!” I said. “What a challenging month!” It had been for many reasons personally and professionally.

Her face shifted into a more relaxed “thank flip for that” expression and the mask was tossed to the floor.

“Really you ( of all people?) have had a tough time too?” she stated.

I then shared a few simple yet blaringly truthful happenings that had occurred making it a tough time since our last session.

This was met with incredulity and yes relief!

I know there are coaches and mentors out there who would not dare to admit this to themselves let alone their clients who invest in their services, but two of my core values is truth and integrity. I simply cannot and will not lie.

Being a good mentor = being real.

Being a good mentor means being real and not afraid to show your true-ness including vulnerability.

I don’t want to be someone who appears perfect in every sense – perfection does not exist in our human world!

It was exactly what was required.

The floodgates opened and the whole drama of the last month fell out of her mouth leaving her exhausted yet relieved.

Her posture showed she was ready to do some work and let go of the weight of the month.

We proceeded to have a truly incredible session for both of us; a real unexpected bonus for me as her mentor.

My vulnerability gave her permission to be open and share her story without embarrassment or judgement.

Icing on the cake – Ooh I love cake.

The additional icing on the cake was that it endeared us to form a stronger bond. One of trust, respect and openness; keys to a fruitful and successful mentor/mentee relationship.

I know we are British and we often use the “stiff upper lip” scenario. Yes it can serve a purpose at times yet it can also create the start of a festering dis-ease within that if left unattended can breed and multiply causing emotional and mental pain “Mental Illness!”

I appreciate that when you own a business you need to be many things to many people, but if you do no acknowledge your current state, it will eventually impact on your business as “YOU are your business”.

On a personal note, I was due to meet up with a lovely lady this week but knew I wasn’t feeling sociable due to the last month’s fallout so I told her.

I admitted I wasn’t at my best and that our meet up was putting pressure on me as I reached for the discarded mask to unwittingly protect her from how I was truly feeling.

The relief it brought me was liberating.

The ‘ lovely lady’ accepted my words, understood and thanked me for sharing and then surrounded me in LOVE.

As someone who works on a daily basis to keep herself well and mentally balanced, I believe sharing our truth and vulnerability sets us free giving us the time and space to do what we need to do to bring us back ‘home’. For me it’s walking with my dog Beano.

Walk it out.

I walk it all out! Returning home, muddy, red faced and weary.

So how can we take this mask-slipping exercise forward into the mainstream?

How about when you next ask someone “How are you?” you mean it.

What if their reply indicated that they were in emotional and mental pain? You might be the person to initiate them reaching out for help.

What if by asking genuinely “how are you?” you encourage others to do the same? And what if by you asking this question you actually save someone’s life!

It can and does happen.

So lovely Huffington Post community, I for one am not embarrassed or ashamed to admit my vulnerability. I reach out to those who love and support me and ask them to share my pain so it disappears with the power of their love.

I for one embrace my strength in being truly vulnerable and urge you to do the same.

 

Warmly

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor. All rights reserved@2017

http://www.alisonwardmentoring.com
info@alisonwardmentoring.com

http://www.facebook.com/Thelifeguidancementor

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