How to achieve the life you truly dream of – No b*******!

Now for all of you who know me, will vouch for me when I say I am direct, straight talking and no bullshit!

I haven’t got time for that, give me he direct truth any day.

One of the things I am passionate about helping my clients with is to create the sort of life they truly desire.

Here’s my recent fb post:

“My friends will know that Wayne and I mainly live in Solihull for half the week then we stay at our lil place in Malvern the second half of the week.

We’ve created a perfect work/life balance which I’m extremely grateful for.

Some people say we are lucky, yet I contest that. We are not lucky, we consciously make choices and decisions to give us the best life. We work hard and love making a difference to the world in our own ways.

This aspect is one I love to share with my clients. It makes my heart smile to see them grow and create the life they have always dreamed of. It’s not just about money, far from it but about how worries lessen, fears are faced and shrunk once acknowledged. It’s how we go to sleep at night in peace and fulfillment and how we wake up in the morning with excitement at the day ahead.

I love sharing the skill-set of a conscious co creator. If you want to know more pm me xxx”

Many people think that it is not possible to have their dreams come true. It might be their mindset, how they were brought up: “you’re getting above your station” was one saying while I was growing up, another “we can’t afford it”. Ooh I loathe that one.

We don’t always realise how these imprints affect our lives and our reality. Whatever we think, we feel, we believe it then we actually become the saying we constantly heard “we can’t afford it” then creates your reality that actually no you can’t afford ‘it’ whatever ‘it’ is.


How do we change this ‘reality?’

One of the simplest and effective ways is to change your speak to powerful, positive and in the now language – saying “I am…” is so powerful.

I am happy, wealthy and healthy.

I am so abundant in so many ways; Money constantly flows into my life.

I  am in love with my life, the opportunities it brings and all the wonderful people I am blessed to know.

The more you say these positive, in the now statements or affirmations as they are often called, the more you will create them becoming your reality.

Focus on one area of your life you want to change and create an “I am” in the now positive affirmation.

Say it often throughout the day.

Act upon any ideas or opportunities that present themselves. This is key; if you don’t act on the newly presented ideas and opportunities your reality won’t upgrade to the new desired way of living.

Let me give you an example;

In 2015, my boys were 19 years and 23 years, James was working after been taken off as a Junior Engineer following completing his apprenticeship and Sam was working in London.

It was the first time that Wayne and I had been together where we could think about our needs, dreams and desires and put them into action.

We decided we wanted a change from living in a built up area and craved for our ‘heaven on earth’ with countryside and lovely local pubs.

I asked to be shown our heaven on earth and six weeks later we had bought a large three bed roomed static caravan at a beautiful holiday park in Herefordshire.

Since spending half of our week there, I have realised I am the happiest I have ever been. Why? Because I now recognise I need to be near the greenery and beauty of nature.

I am also delighted that I am becoming a pretty cool conscious co creator not only for myself but for others. A dear friend sent us over £3000, when my hubby was really ill and couldn’t work. It was a gift from her heart to ours. I was using my ‘in the now’  ‘I am’ statements to release the fears threatening to engulf me at  this time when Ellie called me literally seconds after I started and offered us this gift. It was in our bank account the very next day.

We were so grateful for her kindness and the fact that the winking fears were blasted out of our minds, that I kept stating that Ellie would receive gifts back tenfold over. She certainly did.

A week alter she received a cash gift of $5000.

A month later she was gifted a two week holiday in Hawaii’s top hotel staying in the suite.

Eight month’s later some land was sold at a premium rate.

So can you see that this works? Would you like to have a go yourself and see what you co create? Go on I dare you.

I often find that when people wok with me as their mentor, they start to become a really great conscious co creator too.

Look out for the August edition of Fate & Fortune Magazine where they share a co-creation tool I use and share with my clients. You will see the true feedback from Lucy, a lady I’ve been working with for the last two years. It really works!

Out in July 2017.

If you would like to discuss the possibility of us working together, email me at info@alisonwardmentoring.com

Until next time, taraa.

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor

All rights reserved @2017

http://www.alisonwardmentoring.com

 

Is it a weakness to show vulnerability?

Is it a weakness to show vulnerability?

It was a sunny yet moody day in the beautiful town of Malvern. I was due to meet a mentoring client for her monthly session in the stunning Abbey Hotel.

You are your business

I always use the phrase “You are your business” and encourage my clients to honestly and openly share how their journey has been since our last meet up. I believe that this approach clears any lingering energies, paving the way for progress and yes success whatever success is to the individual.

Looking beyond the mask

I could see she was wearing a ‘mask’ trying to hide her true feelings so she would remain and appear ‘professional’.

An ex corporate lady, she was used to the constant mask- wearing that the corporate world dictated so I decided I would encourage it to slip off in a mask-slipping demonstration.

“My God this last month has been shit!” I said. “What a challenging month!” It had been for many reasons personally and professionally.

Her face shifted into a more relaxed “thank flip for that” expression and the mask was tossed to the floor.

“Really you ( of all people?) have had a tough time too?” she stated.

I then shared a few simple yet blaringly truthful happenings that had occurred making it a tough time since our last session.

This was met with incredulity and yes relief!

I know there are coaches and mentors out there who would not dare to admit this to themselves let alone their clients who invest in their services, but two of my core values is truth and integrity. I simply cannot and will not lie.

Being a good mentor = being real.

Being a good mentor means being real and not afraid to show your true-ness including vulnerability.

I don’t want to be someone who appears perfect in every sense – perfection does not exist in our human world!

It was exactly what was required.

The floodgates opened and the whole drama of the last month fell out of her mouth leaving her exhausted yet relieved.

Her posture showed she was ready to do some work and let go of the weight of the month.

We proceeded to have a truly incredible session for both of us; a real unexpected bonus for me as her mentor.

My vulnerability gave her permission to be open and share her story without embarrassment or judgement.

Icing on the cake – Ooh I love cake.

The additional icing on the cake was that it endeared us to form a stronger bond. One of trust, respect and openness; keys to a fruitful and successful mentor/mentee relationship.

I know we are British and we often use the “stiff upper lip” scenario. Yes it can serve a purpose at times yet it can also create the start of a festering dis-ease within that if left unattended can breed and multiply causing emotional and mental pain “Mental Illness!”

I appreciate that when you own a business you need to be many things to many people, but if you do no acknowledge your current state, it will eventually impact on your business as “YOU are your business”.

On a personal note, I was due to meet up with a lovely lady this week but knew I wasn’t feeling sociable due to the last month’s fallout so I told her.

I admitted I wasn’t at my best and that our meet up was putting pressure on me as I reached for the discarded mask to unwittingly protect her from how I was truly feeling.

The relief it brought me was liberating.

The ‘ lovely lady’ accepted my words, understood and thanked me for sharing and then surrounded me in LOVE.

As someone who works on a daily basis to keep herself well and mentally balanced, I believe sharing our truth and vulnerability sets us free giving us the time and space to do what we need to do to bring us back ‘home’. For me it’s walking with my dog Beano.

Walk it out.

I walk it all out! Returning home, muddy, red faced and weary.

So how can we take this mask-slipping exercise forward into the mainstream?

How about when you next ask someone “How are you?” you mean it.

What if their reply indicated that they were in emotional and mental pain? You might be the person to initiate them reaching out for help.

What if by asking genuinely “how are you?” you encourage others to do the same? And what if by you asking this question you actually save someone’s life!

It can and does happen.

So lovely Huffington Post community, I for one am not embarrassed or ashamed to admit my vulnerability. I reach out to those who love and support me and ask them to share my pain so it disappears with the power of their love.

I for one embrace my strength in being truly vulnerable and urge you to do the same.

 

Warmly

Alison Ward. The Life Guidance Mentor. All rights reserved@2017

http://www.alisonwardmentoring.com
info@alisonwardmentoring.com

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